She's threatening to sabotage my new friendship with my crush!

Dear Leanne,

I've been close friends with this girl for a while now. She recently told me that she has romantic feelings for me but I didn't feel the same. I've never been interested in having a relationship with her and doubt I ever will. I decided to tell her that I have a crush on another girl. She didn't seem to upset and everything had been OK with us since then. But I started talking to my crush more and she hasn't liked it. She also started getting close with her and today she told me that she would tell my crush how interested I am in her as a way to scare her off because we haven't known each other for very long.

I'm confused and feel betrayed.

What should I do?

My best suggestion would be tell her straight up that she's supposed to be your friend not someone who would betray you. You told her how you felt about your crush in confidence that she would keep it a secret. I'd say tell her that if she does anything to sabotage what you've got going with this girl, it'll also sabotage the friendship you have. I think it's also important to remember that this girl, even though you may not have noticed, if feeling rejected, because you rejected her; so her ego is more than likely to be slightly bruised. She clearly doesn't know how to best deal with it but be a bit considerate of her feelings and try not to get too comfy with your crush in front of her because it'll make her feel even less wanted and may just lead to her doing something irrational. Tell her that you are sorry that you don't feel for her in a romantic way but the friendship you two have means a lot to you, and you'd hate for her to ruin that.

Best of luck,

Leanne