My ex won't talk to me!

Dear Leanne,

My ex boyfriend and I were together for 2 years. Dated for our junior and senior year of high school. But I broke up with him because I felt we didn't have it anymore. He was upset and avoided me for a good 3 months. Until 1 day I saw him in the mall with a girl. I don't know if it was his new girlfriend or friend so I went up to him and said hi and he ignored me and walked away. I text him here and there to see how he's doing and hope he's doing well and he just leaves me on read. Why won't he speak to me?

I don't know why he won't talk to you. I'm not him so I can't answer that question. Your best bet if you really want to know why he won't talk to you is to ask him. He may or may not reply because firstly, he doesn't have to. And secondly, for all you know, he could be enjoying the fact that you are so desperate to have his attention. That's right, you're desperate. But why? He's your ex. You broke up with him. So why now are you suddenly so interested in speaking to him? Maybe you had intentions of continuing to be friends because you were together for a decent amount of time. Or maybe you just feel like he has to talk to you, I don't know. But here's what I do know; he does not have to talk to you if he does not want to. If he has no intentions of talking to you, nothing you can do will change that, especially not pestering him. So leave him alone. Quit texting him. Quit trying to speak to him in public. Quit begging for his attention. He really doesn't need to make it any clearer that he's not interested in engaging in a conversation with you. And truthfully, he doesn't even have to have a reason to not want to talk to you. Even though he's being a dick, and the mature thing to have done would've simply been to say "Look, I don't want to talk to you for 'this' and 'that' reason so just leave me alone", he's going about it the immature way as most guys would. But you know what, you don't need to know why he's not talking to you, you just have to accept it. He's been rude enough, now have some dignity hunny. Brush it off and walk of with your head held high and say "Screw him! He's not talking to me, I don't know why and I don't care why." Because you shouldn't care. Your life is not dependant on him speaking to you so it's not important. You've tried enough to get an explanation from him, at this point its unlikely you'll get one. Delete his number and let it go. He's your ex at the end of the day, not your best friend so it shouldn't be too hard.

Who know's, maybe when you start showing you don't need his attention, the tables will turn.

But that shouldn't be a reason for you to then start talking to him again anyway. Any guy who is able to dismiss you that easily doesn't deserve your time.

Best luck,

Leanne