'Is there a more pathetic human being on the planet than my boyfriend?'

So, a boy asked me out last night after school so i went with him. I wasn't thrilled because my he's my best friends ex and she told me "all he cares about are his mom, and his grades, and his friends" Ugh. What a loser.

He messed up the date so many times. He failed to arrive at my house on time, he did NOT have chocolates and flowers for me (Isn't that common sense for first date?!), he did NOT hold the door for me, he did NOT pull my chair out, and he did NOT ask if I wanted dessert (I mean, I didn't but its the thought that counts!), and he did NOT have enough money to pay the bill so I had to pitch in while he looked down ashamed of himself. He said it was the first date he's ever been on and he was sorry if he did a poor job.

So because I'm a nice person I'm giving him a do-over first date, but this time I made a 3 page paper pointing out all his flaws that he HAD to change about himself for us to have a healthy relationship. He has to stop playing video games, stop watching anime and cartoons, give me a compliment every hour, and pronounce the 't' in 'often' (That always irritates me about people!). He accepted the paper and tried to change himself but still kept messing up the requirements he had to change.

Advice?

Oh the irony.

You're asking if there's a more pathetic person on the planet, there is. That person is you.

This guy is trying to make an effort with you and frankly, you're being a bitch. There wasn't one truly bad thing you mentioned about him. So he doesn't hold the door open for you or move out the chair, maybe that's not how he shows he's into girls. If you need a guy that does that stuff, then he's not the right guy for you because clearly, he doesn't see the need to do it. He attempted to pay and came short; but you are acting like he told you he wasn't going to pay for what you had to eat. Then you have cheek to be pissed off about it like it's his duty to pay for you. It's not. From what you've said, he was in no way rude to you nor did he disrespect you. And then you sit down and write a 3 page essay on all his flaws. Seriously? Firstly, why do you have that much time? I'm sure you don't put that much effort into your homework. Secondly, who do you think you are? You don't think he knows all his flaws? Of course he does! And he doesn't need some self centred, shallow, immature child reminding him of them. And from the sounds it, you need to be sitting down realising you, just like everybody else, aren't perfect. Maybe that should be the topic of your next essay.

Tell this guy he needs to run away from you quick, and never look back. He sounds like he can do a lot better.

If you want to get a guy that treats you well, you're going to have to learn to treat others well too. And from the sounds of it, you have no idea how to do that. Before even looking for a boyfriend, you need to change the way you view and treat others otherwise you'll end up very lonely. I hope you can see that this response was in no way an attack on you, but simply a very honest take on your behaviour. You have high standards and know what you want from a guy which I respect. But, that does not make up for the way you acted towards that guy. I truly hope you are able to start being as critical about yourself as you are about others and find a way to better yourself.

Best of luck,

Leanne